chingu123 10:30 am on March 12, 2018
Tags: Because This Is My First Life ( 24 ), Jung So-min ( 24 ), Lee Min-ki ( 25 ), metoo ( 4 )

Because This Is My First Life – Ep 11

Eekkk!!! the world has shifted and we’re moving on to bigger things!!!! What a great episode..so many things to love..ESPECIALLY the cliffhanger!

I kept thinking of the words to that song from My Fair Lady” “I’ve grown accustomed to his face..”..robot? Expressionless? Did we EVER think that of our guy?? One of the best things in this episode for me was that it reminded me almost of a flower that opens up little by little..there were so many variations on that lovely face: irritation and dagger stare when he was criticized for naming the app, fatigue at his kimchi making adventures; pleasure as he sees her appear at the gate; satisfied expression when she admits that she was worried about him..I can’t believe that I ever thought that face was bland..heck..I even find it cute now..even though he’s still wearing his awful hairstyle..I could stare at this guy for hours and never tire.

But I love that he is still himself..I mean..how many men would openly admit in their workplace that they were taking a day off just to make kimchi???

And..I love that he had such human reactions this episode..he too acted distinctly un-landlord like when he makes note that his tenant is really peeved with him..that sounds like a husband in the doghouse to me..and heck..on the bus he even asked about whether she’d eaten and should they eat out? He’s crossing lines too..

Won SEok and Ho Rang..it felt so sad watching these two unhappy people and judging from past kdrama breakups I wouldn’t be surprised if this was their last date..I’ve learned that this is a very popular way to leave a partner..strange as it may seem to me..and I’m not unhappy..they are obviously both miserable the way they are now..

So…back to the finale…of course I loved it..loved that they always have these moments of communication and closeness..but what I really loved was that this kiss wasn’t in reaction to a heated moment..wasn’t accidental..it was our hero admitting that he’d been thinking of this for a while and taking that definite step forward by initiating the whole thing..and it was a two parter too..he gave her a chance to stop and then gave ..what is for me one of the sweetest smiles that I’ve seen yet..when she obviously wanted more instruction on the art of kissing..lol…let her wonder and question when he became such an expert!!!!!

Can’t wait to see what’s next…

#because-this-is-my-first-life, #jung-so-min, #lee-min-ki, #metoo

yenchan69 11:13 am on March 12, 2018

I agree! Great episode!
My world totally tilted when CEO Ma said “what makes you think he doesn’t know about Ji Ho’s feelings?” because it’s true. He’s very “robotic” and “expressionless” but just because he doesn’t react doesn’t mean he doesn’t notice and doesn’t realize. We were given actual proof that he is a keen observer even from the very beginning when they just met and he deduced she was crushing on her coworker. And he can tell right away that she’s angry and he looks like he knows exactly why too. I guess it just took that extra step for me to shake off my assumption that he was somewhere on the Aspergers spectrum and realize he was just frozen in place after his last heartbreak. The drama was being really crafty trying to give us the wrong idea.

LOVED the kiss scene and how deliberately he set it up. I also really appreciated how he took the time to ascertain her permission before proceeding further, ESPECIALLY in this whole #MeToo climate and given the points the drama has been trying to make.

He was so happy and relieved when she showed up to the kimchi making! I thought instantly, “well, her malevolent plan worked well!” hahaha.

Ho Rang and her BF definitely are not headed anywhere good. Look how upset she was when she realized this butthead had made so little investment in their future together all along. And now he looks miserable at the thought of settling down and thinks two years is too SOON for marriage?? they’re already 30!! His lack of commitment really is quite worrying even though he seems to adore her, but wtf?

Although it was cute when CEO Ma came bearing a bag full of bras so Soo Ji could find one she found comfortable, I’m sorry that they indulged his tantrum at the thought of “other men” looking at “his” woman’s breasts. I mean? How caveman? They’re HER breasts, why should he think he has rights over them at all?? Couldn’t they have restricted him to being angry on her behalf that her coworkers are disrespecting her without bring his deluded machismo into it? That whole “I don’t want other men looking at my woman” thing needs to die. Women don’t belong to men. Period.
- Robin N 2:18 pm on March 12, 2018
  
  This show has really captured a lot of things that real women (and men) can relate to around the contemporary world.
  
  Se-hee is not just a robot, he’s someone who’s been burned badly and found the painful experience one he’s not willing to repeat (especially given that his experience of married life watching his parents isn’t so warm and fuzzy). But he is a thinking, even sentimental man who apparently has learned some important lessons — like ask the lady first (even if he she’s willing). And yes, she was very willing! I like how he’s given up worrying about what others think of him — expect his tenant, it seems.
  
  Ji-ho is not above being vindictive with the kimchi-making fair-play assignment, but it’s also a big, big test — is this a man who could be a good partner, not just a good provider, given that she doesn’t want the same kind of marriage her parents have either?
  
  Ho-rang should be mad at Won-seok; I can’t think of any woman who would not be! They’ve dated for 7 years, lived together I don’t know how many of those years because they are planning on marriage and she’s accommodating his need to succeed at his foolish app so that he can feel like the genius breadwinner. To discover that he’s so far away from the stability she craves — and yeah, 30 is not the time to be putting things off for another couple of years at a minimum because with the way things are going she could wake up next to him at 40 with no home, no children, no security and a man-child to take care of. The worst part of it is that while he does love her, he’s put his career first and he already is resenting her for him having to take a job with CEO Ma and surrender his dream. Without a major attitude adjustment they’re doomed. But how many couples have you seen in similar scenarios?
  
  As for CEO Ma, he is right; Soo-ji does look like a little kid when she laughs happily and is not wearing any makeup! I’ve seen photos of Esom like that and she looks like she’s 10 (as long as you don’t notice the tall, striking figure!) But… to think of those as his ta-tas… sorry, nope. In spite of that level of possessiveness that hits us wrong, it’s probably not as offensive to her because he clearly is saying it out of love and not ugly ownership vibes, and she’s not appeared to have that kind of love in her life growing up. He truly wants nothing more than to make her happy, and be her knight errant, slaying dragons for her, even when she’s capable of doing it herself.
  - chingu123 2:41 pm on March 12, 2018
    
    yes..yes – back to the flower analogy..this whole drama has become just like that..the writers have been brilliant so far in revealing just enough at the right time..and that definitely was a shocker to hear…I LOVE that they keep us on our toes and every time we think that we have a character figured out..like our hero’s motivations for instance..the writers give you the answer and you find that you’ve been wrong all along!
    
    I really feel for Ho Rang though..especially because there is love between them..it would have been so much easier if he’d been obviously bad and had lots of flaws so that a break was sooner in coming than later..but his fear of commitment and of course terrible business sense seem to be the only things and that keeps her there..in hope and in frustration.
    
    As to the bra scene..I agree with you regarding the caveman attitude but let me add just one little thing for perspective..I do always remember that it’s not just about him being upset at other men zeroing in her breasts..a few scenes back it was SHE who was so upset at what had just happened at work and this is how he came to find out about the situation in the first place..so..while I know that there is a mixture of “don’t look at MY woman’s breasts” going on..there is also a protective element that he feels..where he is sincerely trying to spare her future incidents and hoping that he has found the compromise ..a comfortable bra where both of them will be happy..lol!
    - Robin N 3:27 pm on March 12, 2018
      
      Oh yes, CEO Ma most definitely wants to protect her and comfort her and cherish Soo-ji — the man is beyond smitten! He may not always say or do the right thing but his heart and motivations are definitely in the right place.
      
      I do feel bad for Ho-rang too because if she had grown tired of Won-seok, or he her and their relationship was just naturally petering out it would be different. She does love him, he does love her, but neither one is happy right now. She was momentarily happy that she’s got the ring on her finger but they’ve actually taken steps backward in their relationship, not forward.
      
      When a writer and the entire cast and production team manage to surprise us and at the same time show things honestly that we can relate to it’s a very good thing, IMO. I’m with you!
    - chingu123 3:41 pm on March 12, 2018
      
      I confess that CEO Ma is fast becoming a favourite..I just LOVE this guy..there might be more handsome and more sexy men out there..but when it comes to one of the best personalities he is head above so many..when he loves..he loves honestly and fervently and amazingly..what a lucky girl she is to have found him ..I hope that she realizes it very soon.
      - Robin N 4:32 pm on March 12, 2018
        
        I liked his performance in Mystery Queen too — he’s not a looker but he’s a mensch and holds your attention — even carrying off a silly fantasy song and dance musical number!
      - yenchan69 12:34 am on March 13, 2018
        
        what do you mean he’s not a looker?? He’s seriously cute!! I think he’s really hot, totally my style! Hahaha! And with that squishy personality? BONUS!!
      - Robin N 10:25 am on March 13, 2018
        
        😆 Okay! I know what you mean! He’s just not “conventionally” good-looking, but he most definitely has his charms. I think he’s like those people who have such interesting personalities (in a good way, not the sociopathic way) that you enjoy spending time in their company and they become better and better looking every day because it comes from the inside.
      - Robin N 12:03 pm on March 15, 2018
        
        I take back what I said https://instagram.com/p/BgStpzRH0fn/
      - yenchan69 12:55 pm on March 15, 2018
        
        oh man. SO CUTE!
      - Robin N 2:06 pm on March 15, 2018
        
        It’s a great photo too

Comments are closed.

We Talk Dramas All Day

Focusing on Asian and Spanish-language dramas and the people who make them

Because This Is My First Life – Ep 11